Tw: Onision, Alex Day, Tom Milson taking advantage of fans, abuse etc
I don’t want to compare them too much, and the pain they have inflicted on others since I think pain is entirely our own and I don’t want to in any way try to speak for the victims by trying to decide who is worse and so on. This isn’t really what you asked, but I just wanted to point that out first, because I find it important to note that a victims pain is equally as important and real regardless of who is the worst offender and I don’t want to come off as trying to compare them in that way. I hope that made some sense.
Now to your question, just by looking at their actions and in no way trying to speak for their victims, I have to first say that I am mostly “involved” and informed regarding Onision’s actions so I know a lot more about him than about Alex Day and Tom Milson. But in light of the recent revelations within the Youtube community I have heard a lot of what has been going on with these others Youtubers as well and I have found myself shocked at how many of these big Youtubers are capable and willing to treat people with such disrespect.
How many of these Youtubers can find it within themselves to treat their fans like something disposable they can use as they please with no consideration of this other person’s feelings and well-being. To fully knowingly take advantage of a fan who admires and looks up to them. To know they have the power to completely manipulate and to not stop at the thought but to also use that power.
To do all this against the very people they owe their success to. I’m disgusted. I don’t think I will ever be able to look at the Youtube community with the same eyes. People you would never have thought to be able to commit such acts have done just that. And unfortunately I feel certain there’s a big number of unknown cases we know nothing about.
In conclusion, I think they have done very similar things in many ways but I’m not well-informed enough to speak more in detail about what they have done. One thing I can’t stress enough that they do have in common, is their ability and their will to manipulate young impressionable people they know to be their fans into doing things they shouldn’t. That kind of heartless behavior just makes me furious and it makes me certain that these are not people who should get to a position where they have a following in the first place. Because they clearly can’t handle it and in that they clearly don’t deserve it.
I am glad this is being brought to light and that they have to face the consequences they single-handedly brought upon themselves. I feel really bad for the victims and I hope they feel that they have the support of thousands of people and that they are not to blame and owe nothing to these people and I truly admire them for speaking up where many of us would have been too afraid. But ultimately, if you choose to speak up or not, you have a lot of people on your side who along with you see these people for who they are.
And to those who are or were a fan of either of these people, there is nothing wrong with that. You liking their music or their comedy does not mean you like these horrendous actions they’ve committed. But there is also nothing wrong with still criticizing them for what they have done. You don’t owe them to support them in everything they do. You don’t owe them to stand up for them where they’ve messed up. That’s their own job. You don’t owe them to try and silence people who speak up against them. And you won’t let them down by not doing that. This is their work, they messed up and they are the only ones who owe it to anyone to try and fix it. Don’t feel like you owe anything to them. You don’t.
They owe everything to you. Not the other way around.